Talk Money to me
Disclaimer; there are some adult words sprinkled throughout, as I’ve used in other posts. The reason I use them is because it’s how I think/talk/write and the way I can be most honest and drive my point home. If you don’t like it, sorry, but I’m gonna use them anyway.
So, let’s talk about talking about money.
The reason I’m not hesitant to talk money, or to discuss my net worthnet worth, or salary is because who the fuck cares. I mean obviously I do, but it’s because I’m trying to reach a goal. Other than that it’s just a number. People get crazy when you talk about money and there’s a global stigma against discussing how much someone makes or how much they have. It’s lunacy. Why are things this way? Well, there’s a couple reasons. One is that companies don’t want workers discussing salary with one another. If someone’s getting lowballed compared to someone else at their level they’ll probably ask for a raise. This drives up costs. The second is that it has become the single most important status symbol of all time. If you have Bill Gates money you can do whatever you want and you can get other people to do whatever you want. So naturally, people use this as an indicator to judge themselves against others. If you make $100,000 a year and you find out your neighbor makes $50,000, you’re superior. Even if everything else about the two of you is the same, people tend to favor the rich because the money makes them seemingly smarter, more well-off, and perhaps even more attractive. In order to avoid this, people just don’t talk about it or get offended when you do.
I’m here to tell you that’s a bunch of bullshit.
While money does matter in today’s society, who are we to compare ourselves to others based on how much of it we have? Maybe your best friend inherits $10 million from their grandparents. Does that change who they are? Sure, it might appear as though it has, but on the inside has that person likely changed? Probably not. At the core, they are the same friend you had when you were eating ramen noodles together two nights ago. My point is that judging people solely based on their level of wealth is wrong. Some of the most compassionate and generous people I know are far from rich.
Whether you make $10,000 a year or $1,000,000 a year it’s important to be a fundamentally good person and have respect for others regardless of their socioeconomic status. If we all took this approach then talking about money would not be an issue. It would truly just be a number. But, as soon as we use it as a rule of thumb to determine if we are better or worse than someone, it creates a hostile environment and becomes a taboo conversational subject.
Taking this approach I’m going to continue to be open and honest about where I’m at financially and hopefully if the site gains any traction, people will feel welcome to share where they’re at as well. It’s important to realize that if you’re just a shitty person that’s one thing, but don’t ever think you’re not good enough or that you’re too good for someone because of how much money you have.